October 24, 2012

  • Family Feuds

    TALES FROM THE BRAT FARM

    I have said it before, I LOVE family and I forgive them their short-comings as they forgive mine.  I was thinking mostly about my siblings, aunts and uncles when I said that because that has been our family history.  I never expected that this would not be the case with my grandkids or even my children.  It's a real shock to me.

    I have a granddaughter (I will NOT identify) that apparently has a yen for drama all the time.  It's the only thing I can figure out because she just won't let things go just because everyone doesn't rush to agree with her.  She's apparently also jealous of another granddaughter.  Maybe it's because she is both older, smarter and has more material things.  Of course, she is forgetting that nothing the granddaughter has came easily.  She had to work hard for everything she has.  The second granddaughter also has an adorable, smart child.  The first granddaughter has no children but thinks she is a MUCH wiser person than any of us that have HAD or have children.  She has forgotten her own childhood and how SHE was.  I was there.  I remember.

    Anyway, she has managed to start a feud with her aunts and uncles and now with me.  She said she was told she couldn't talk to me anymore (by whom, I have no idea....she never checked with me....ever!) due to something she did that I found shocking because it was such bullshit.  She's thrown all kinds of accusations around that I can't believe and never even heard about.  Then she said not to expect her for Thanksgiving or Christmas.

    First of all, I am totally pissed off that she has just swallowed things that were said without letting me know so I could have stepped on it and put an end to it.  But now, no, no, no.  Regardless of what anyone and everyone has told her, she persists in her character assassination and it looks bad....mostly for her.

    She called her cousin a *half-breed* (the cousin is Italian and East Indian so I guess she must think East Indians are not human).  It just keeps getting worse and I said, *ENOUGH!*  I no longer care if the family is fractured by this crap.  If she can't behave in an adult manner, then she SHOULD stay away because *I* don't want to hear any of it any more.  She chewed out an uncle for calling the cousin his *sister*.  She IS his sister because the Beast and I adopted her many years ago.  She may call me *grandma* but her birth certificate now lists me as her mother and the Beast as her father.  We did this only after talking to the other kids about doing it.  It makes her one of our direct heirs so they had to approve the move, too.  Their comment was, *You should have done this years ago!*

    It's really too bad because, if she had just been an adult and handled things in an adult manner, she would have found out that her grandfather and I could have been good friends to have besides being relatives.  We happen to love her and her fiance but right now we don't LIKE them very much.  Perhaps this time away from us all will help her grow up.  I certainly hope so because she was gone from our lives for many important years.  When we found her, we were ecstatic. 

    I will miss her smiling face during the Holidays.  All of us that get together (her cousin, the daughter and fiance, her aunt and her two children plus another cousin and her new hubby plus the Beast and I) will do the best we can to get through the holidays without her.  It will just tear my heart up but....I am praying that God in his infinite wisdom will help her heart grow big enough to contain both forgiveness and love for her blood family.  I know her soon-to-be family loves her.  Otherwise they would not have permitted her to move in with them while she and her fiance are working towards their wedding.

    Love you all. 

Comments (4)

  • Sorry, Mom. I probably didn't make things much easier.

    However, I had listened to all sides, and even spoke to her the other day. Then I listened to other accounts, and it all added up to one thing. One side was blowing this wayyyy out of proportion.
    She needs a short reality check, and a firm dose of karma.
    I know she is just a child and will one day see how dumb she is being.
    For myself, I apologize for being so harsh. I could have laid that out much better. A little softer, perhaps. We are all better than we have been comporting ourselves lately.

  • It's okay.  I love you, son, and you know that once I blow up, it's over and done with.  That's just the way I am and I forgive and forget the tempermental ups and downs we all have.  I also ask that I be treated the same way.  I can be a bitch at times.  I'm not sure if she really understands karma.  But karma will catch up with her one day.  This I believe.

    I am sorry if I hurt you.  It was unintentional and I seem to have a tough time sometimes explaining myself clearly.  It's in my mind but not on my lips.  I love you all.  Hope we might see YOU and your family some time during the upcoming Holidays.  Chewlee is so excited about it all.  It may be tough with your dad's new religious affiliation but I will be what I am and nothing less.  He's never been *into* the Holidays anyway.  He's too self-centered to share the joy.

    Our youngling has made it clear she will not be joining us.  Like I've said before and hope for sincerely, I hope she grows up some and her heart isn't so closed off from her family.  That's MY Christmas wish.

  • First of all, I'm not jealous. Second I did actually call and confront you with it. Your response was "oh gosh, I'm sure Krystin didn't say that." These rumors, came right out of her mouth. You refuse to believe that she could be anything but perfect. This holiday, my wish is for all of you to see what kind of person she really is. And by the way, any type of material thing I may own, has been bought by me. I have never asked for money from anyone. I work hard for my money and will not. If anyone is jealous of the other, it's her. Trust me, she's the one who gets drunk and runs her mouth when she's upset that one guys eyes aren't on her. Apparently Cory is grimy all because he doesn't py attention to her. And by the way, it's not an awkward situation for me to be living with them. And when I did call to confront you on me not being welcome, you were put on speakerphone so that Angie and the whole world could hear. Truth be told, Jonathan probably had to get stitches on his mouth because god is tired of him running it. Now that you've been caught in your lies on this post, would you like me to read the other ones and point them out in those too? 

  • @tsmancil - I did NOT lie anywhere...and I told you when you called me about being told you weren't welcome that it was NOT true and I had never said that.  I also told you to call ME whenever something was said that *I* supposedly said and I would tell you if it had or had not been said by me.  I asked you, *Do you understand?* and you said yes but....guess what?  You never came over and you are now saying I lied to you.  That isn't true and I am really and truly sorry that you aren't hearing what is actually being said and what your imagination is churning for you.

    I'm pretty sure you are jealous, if nothing else you show it by your spiteful accusations against both Krys and the rest of us.  We don't think she's perfect but we love her despite her shortcomings.  Just as we do you.  However, your continuing this venom has crossed over the line.  Don't bother any more of your ugly posts and accusations or I will have to ban you from posting on here.

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