May 1, 2012

• Settling In

  TALES FROM THE BRAT FARM

  Today is the first day when all the things for Kevin are over and done with.  This is the start of what I am sure will be when his loss finally hits Tara and the rest of those who dealt with him on a daily basis.  That includes his friends but mostly it's Tara I worry about.  I'm going to have to up my contact with her for a while, I think.  Not that I can really console her but I want her to remember that she has family around when she needs us.

  Today the Beast got together with his long-time customer that he's STILL taking care of, even if it's talking the techs working on her buildings through a repair.  No one knows those buildings like he does.  He spent more than 30 years taking care of them.  Now she is going to buy him the special phone he wants which actually has internet and can provide internet service on his laptop when he travels.  It can also be docked here at the house to provide Wi-Fi service for our computers (PC's) when we use up our wireless allowance.  It's going to have 10 MB while our home wireless thingy has just 3MB.  This is all stuff he discussed with the boys while they were here and decided he was going to see about getting it.  His customer is also going to be paying the monthly charges on the phone until he (or she) dies I guess.  I just listen.  I don't get involved.

  Nothing exciting happening right now.  Chewlee should be home from her other grandfather's house tomorrow, I believe.  I can't wait to hear all about it and all about what he bought for her.  I've missed the little stinker.

  I don't believe I mentioned that the Princess and Johnnycakes came to the memorial service on Sunday.  I was so glad they both made it.  She wore this beautiful black dress and looked so good.  She stood with Tara at the entrance to the field (actually, Tara insisted she stay close to her) while people were coming up to talk to her or just to give her a supportive hug.  The outpouring of love and support since Kevin's death has been just incredible.  I know they care but that is going to drop off now since people must return to their own lives.  They will think about the loss of a child and love their own just a little bit more and that's a good thing.  They will imagine the kind of hole in your heart that could leave but won't come close.  I know this because there are degrees of loss of a child.  My family has experienced one kind and Tara the hardest one of all.

  I want to thank everyone for their prayers.  They have helped Tara tremendously as she keeps telling everyone.  Remember this and my admonition to tell those you love that you do, especially your children.  Love you all. 
  

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