September 12, 2011

  • Trouble In Paradise?

     

    TALES FROM THE BRAT FARM

    Looks like some of the things I felt about the relationship between the Princess and Johnnycakes was right.  Of course, I kept it close to my chest since I took my clues from various things Chewlee said.....and didn't say.  It made me sad to think that he went from being very loving to Chewlee to not wanting to have anything to do with her.  Chewlee stopped talking about *daddy*, which is what she called him because he was the male figure in her life from when she started becoming aware of the people in her life.  The *daddy* term was not suggested by anyone.  She knew from her story books that everyone had a *mommy* and a *daddy* so....he had to be her daddy.

    But the past year has seen less and less of her talking about *daddy*.  The reason I started watching Chewlee once again was because he told the Princess that he *didn't want to take care of a kid that wasn't his*.  I knew that much and am really not sure why the Princess even took him back after their one breakup.  The bad thing right now is that they actually found a place she likes that she can afford without him but he refuses to leave.  She is tired of his being mean to Chewlee who is a loving child.  All the furniture in the place is hers.  He owns just a computer and a recliner.  Period. 

    We are talking about accommodating them once more here at our house.  We've discussed several different things, including buying another travel trailer but that has it's problems, too.  We will have to give it more thought so that Chewlee doesn't lose her feeling of her mother and herself being a *family* on their own.  **Sigh**  All because Johnnycakes wants to feel he's in control.

    He could move into his mother's house, which is empty but he doesn't want to make anything easy for the Princess and Chewlee.  Big man.  I really liked him at one time but this is a side of him that I had never seen.  The Princess said he no longer helps clean, cook or anything that resembles being a couple or a family.  He's a slob and he pays half the utility bills and rent but nothing else.  She buys all the groceries, too.  It's a sad situation all around.

    He's become cruel to Chewlee.  If she leaves a book on the floor, instead of calling her and making her pick it up and put it away, he throws it into her room.  If it hits her, well....that's too bad.  She shouldn't have left it on the floor.  It explains a lot to me about why she has become so clingy to me.   She feels her *daddy* doesn't love her any more.  If she tries to hug him, he just pushes her away and tells her she's annoying.

    My heart hurts for her and for the Princess.  She wants him out of their life since he says he LOVES HER but not her daughter.  The Princess says they are a package.  He knew from the beginning that she had a child.  He's just not mature enough to take on that responsibility nor to do the right thing and leave.  So sad.

    Love you all.  Hope you are having a good day.  I'll let you know what happens.