September 18, 2009

• Why Parents Grow Old So Quickly

  When you have kids, you often think that it will be great when they are grown and finally out of your hair and you can have a life of your own.  Let me tell you this, *IT AIN'T NEVER GONNA HAPPEN*.  Trust me on this, you NEVER stop worrying about your kids and what is going on with them.  You hope they stay safe, stay healthy, are happy and enjoy life a bit.  You want to see them be happy with their work, to make enough money to enjoy the good things in life, to have kids if that's what they want and that those kids are healthy and whole.  You will help them out with some *loans* when things don't go well with them and they are between a rock and a hard place.  You may even have to take them in (again) a time or two until they *get on their feet*.

  This has kind of hit me again with my daughter, Buttmunch.  She was living with a *bad boy* when she was younger.  They had a child while they were together that we shall call Sheepie since that is what Buttmunch calls her.  The sperm donor, Brutus, actually kidnapped her and it took 9 years to find her.  She was found, finally, on Facebook and we managed to convince Brutus to let her come visit us for Christmas.  Not that it was easy and, until she was actually in our car (we had to go get her in Georgia), we weren't sure if it was really going to happen.

  Now it's been 10 years since Buttmunch and Brutus were together but the jerk is still as mean and unpredictable as ever.  He has now decided that it was He THAT WAS WRONGED.  He has overlooked the fact that there was a signed agreement between them that he violated and he could actually be prosecuted for his kidnapping.  HE, however, believes that my daughter should now pay HIM child support for taking care of her.

  Since she is unemployed and his own agreement states that he assumes ALL financial obligations for her while she is with him, it seems like a rather stupid thing to think, ya know?   I think he thought Buttmunch was bluffing that she has a copy of the agreement (not a bluff) and he tried to act like that agreement doesn't matter because it took place so long ago or something.  Dumb is his middle name obviously.  She told him to go ahead and take her to court.  She would just love it.

  He has, however, turned to a different tactic lately.  Threats.  Not very nice ones (he's threatened to kill her) and has done it rather stupidly (I said his middle name was DUMB, didn't I?) by leaving said threats on voice mail and even texts on her cell phone.   He can be scary to women since he's got a hot temper (and one poor woman was raped but did testify and he got sent to prison for it).  I know that he broke Buttmunch's arm once (she was able to hide that from us until long afterward because she lived so far away from us) and he still scares her because he IS so violent.  After she left him, she went and got herself certified and she was licensed for a long time to carry a concealed weapon.  That doesn't apply in her current state, however.  He is definitely the type that you don't even try to talk to....just shoot and kneecaps are a good place to start because if he gets his hands on YOU, he WILL cause a world of hurt.

  So now I have HER to worry about because it would be very much like the jerk to get loaded with some friends one night and decide he's going to *teach her a lesson* and show up at her doorstep the next.  He's a brooder and he can't get over the fact that SHE left HIM.  That kind of tells you the type of personality we are talking about.  10 years and he still is pissed.  That is also what makes him so dangerous.  Men that think that way are not sane.  He may not be certifiable but it doesn't make him less dangerous. 

  Buttmunch decided to try to do something legally.  What that is will depend on what the attorney she will be seeing next week has to say.  No matter what she does, it is sure to set off fireworks.  It won't scare him, unfortunately.  It will just fuel this anger he has towards her.  Our concern now is that this anger doesn't get turned towards Sheepie who is kind of a hostage to it while he rants and raves.  He's made her cry more than once since this all started. 

  My sons would love to waylay him and beat the living crap out of him at the very least.  I hope that's all it remains because there has to be a way to beat the bullies of this world BEFORE they do something irreversible.  It's just another chronicle of how and why mothers and fathers never stop worrying about and over their kids. 

  Sometimes, it is the stuff of nightmares.
  

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