April 30, 2013
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Chewlee Gets Paddled And Bratfink Is Back!
TALES FROM THE BRAT FARM
The Princess got a phone call from the school today. Chewlee was in the office for calling one of her classmates, a boy, an asshole. (I was told by Chewlee later that this was the bully boy in her class that knocked kids down, told them to get out of his way, and would push them down if they weren’t fast enough.) Anyway, vulgar language is NOT tolerated and so Chewlee received her second bout of corporal punishment. It was meted out by her teacher (whom she adores) and she told me that her teacher hit her but so hard it *itched*. You and I know that means it really stung!
On her mother’s order, I made up a sheet for her that said, *I will not use bad words.* and numbered the lines for her to write it 25 times. I don’t think her mother meant for this but I put the completed *homework* into her folder for her teacher to see. Just so she knows that we DO punish her; we just don’t beat her little bottom. Maybe that’s good, maybe not. I will admit that she IS spanked on occasion but it’s not hard enough to leave marks and certainly not more than one or two smacks. It always shocks her that we do such a thing and she cries like the drama queen she can be at times. She did the *homework* without an argument after we had a little discussion about it and WHY she had to do it.
But get this…..the Beast blamed ME for her using the word asshole. He tried to claim that it was MY programs she watches in my room. I got really pissed and told him that when she is in MY room, she is watching her cartoons. Dora, Mike the Night, the Bubble Guppies, Max and Ruby, the Backyardigans, etc., etc. He tried to claim it sounded like she learned it from one of the episodes of Blue Collar. I told him that I have never watched it with her around. I don’t consider that a kid type program. I didn’t even like her watching Jeff Dunham with his puppets. Achmed the Dead Terrorist can get a bit nasty at times. She watched one of his specials and I have never let her watch him again. Just because I don’t know what might be said. Also Walter, the old man puppet, is a bit on the raw side. He let her play her games on his computer once she had finished the homework and had her after-school snack.
Now for the GREAT news! Bratfink is back online!!!! AND she’s started posting all her musings while she was living like a cave person. If you haven’t saved her link to her blog site, you can copy and paste this (sorry but my link section isn’t working….again!): http://planetbratfink.blogspot.com/
She is happy to be back online and able to twitter or tweet or whatever the hell it is.
I’m just so glad to see her and be able to talk to her again, you can’t even begin to imagine. I’m sure all her twitter fans are glad she’s back, too.Hot weather here tomorrow…mid-80′s. Hope everyone is enjoying some good weather even if it’s just for a few days. Love you all. Be good. Smile at complete strangers and spread the joy!
Comments (2)
I don’t believe in Corporal punishment, you come to me with my kids issues and we shall handle the problem. The first thing should have been asked, “Why did you use such language?” Kids at that age KNOW the meaning of their words, and WHY they use them. I made it through school with 2 kids already, not a single time was C.P. used on any child. Sounds like to me Juli has a strong personality, and she knows what is what. Granted you “have” to punish her, because actually, no, I take that back… I don’t know why. I would just sit her down and tell her it isn’t appropriate for a child her age to speak that way, and yes, grown up do use those words. Grown ups also can handle the choices made by those too. I think the sentences were a decent enough punishment, the paddle not so much. The just leads to more irritation, and causes her to not like the bully even more. Think about it. She called the bully a bad name, and got paddled. Did he get punished for knocking kids down? It was not relaid in the story, so I am assuming it wasn’t addressed. Still wouldn’t you dislike him even more now? Think at that age level. It creates more animosity. I understand why you chose to let the teacher SEE the hand written punishment, but it is NOT your OBLIGATION to do so. What happens at home in response to punishment should solely be between mother and child and in your case, because mom was working through you directed by mother. Teachers always knew I dealt well with any issues that arose with Mark Dylon, which were few and far between, but when they did. I dealt with it at home. I’m the parent not the teacher nor the principle. I just know I have seen my share watching my kids go through school, the bullies always get away with their issues, because the teachers start realizing their parents aren’t doing crap about it. Then the kids at school start to stop caring what teachers or parents say, because the problem isn’t getting fixed. The bully. It is a never ending cycle of the good kids taking up for themselves or defending others, be it physically or verbally. Yes, it starts THIS young now a days. My day it started during middle school, these days it starts at her level now. Correct what is wrong, but not to that degree. As far as the “Beast” Please, kids hear it all the time, be it TV or their adults around them. They know it is bad words, and I believe you that she was watching kids shows in your office. That is what your old grandkids watched or the History channel.. I think the worst you made them suffer through was Murder, She Wrote. I must add the kids STILL HATE that show. LOLOLOL We all still make jokes, “I’d never invite that lady to my neck of the woods, someone is sure to die” LOLOL Just so we are clear, not starting anything, just I am not an advocate of Corporal Punishment, never have been. That is my job as a parent, not the states right to do so. All parents have the right to opt out of that disciplinary action.
I would also never have allowed my kids to be spanked by some school teacher or principal. but I doubt that the Princess ever believed that her kid would ever be in line for something like that. Yes, Chewlee is very strong-willed and has a mind of her own. You can sit her down to talk to her but she has her own views that she will need to tell YOU about, too. She does know what bad words are and that she isn’t supposed to use them but all that goes out of her head when she’s provoked. Oh, and you are right….according to Chewlee. The bullies go unpunished because the teachers don’t see the things they do or else they really don’t care about the bullies enough to try to teach them social skills.
But I didn’t really ask about the bully. I do know that Chewlee told me that he didn’t bother her in the playground or push her around in the hallways for the last two days. That made her happy and I’m sure she feels that calling him an asshole (even with being punished) was worth it.
I can understand that the kids hate *Murder, She Wrote* even now. Chewlee will hate NCIS, I’m sure. When she can’t watch cartoons (when she doesn’t get a smiley face), that’s the program that’s on (love Mark Harmon as an older man now. Hard to believe it’s him, actually) or else something on Discovery or History channel. I do take pity on her at times and will put on one of the Harry Potter movies (which is not a cartoon) so isn’t breaking the rules.
I do what I can as far as discussing some of these issues with her but it’s also got to come from her mother. I’ve seen the Princess with her and I know she’s strict but she (Chewlee) will still, at times, do what SHE wants. It can be tough at times without getting frustrated and beating her to death…LOL j/k.
You did a good job with your kids and they know you and Marcus both love them dearly. That’s what counts, kiddo. The Beast takes no blame for anything but will claim anything positive as what HE contributed. Fat chance. Your kids were never afraid to walk in their own house until/unless their father was in bed. I think her school over-reacted to the whole thing. As for my sending in what her mother had her print out…I wanted the teacher to know we DID have our own form of punishment and perhaps it might make her/them rethink how they handle such things with a kindergartener. They hate to do those kind of things like their lives are going to end or some such thing.
Love you.