December 3, 2012
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I’m Furious….
TALES FROM THE BRAT FARM
I’ve tried hard not to talk about family problems other than the ones between me and the Beast. Sometimes those are funny. Other times, they give me a headache. But there is one problem that’s been going on for way too long and it’s getting worse by the minute. It involves Buttmunch, Mustachio and, more recently, Marcus Aurelius.
I try not to take sides in things between the siblings. However, Buttmunch needs a real reality check and so does Marcus. It goes back to when my daughter took my son in when he was basically homeless. He appreciated it and was giving her money every week to help out with the rent. He figured she would keep some out for herself, like maybe $20. or so but she kept it all and let her boyfriend think her brother was a deadbeat. That’s not all. She also told this same thing to family members. That I know because she told this same story to ME directly. I will tell you later how I found out she lied to us all.
Then, when Sheepie moved in with her, he knew that Circle (the boyfriend) hadn’t worked much and rent was due. He put out $475. to go towards rent and then spent $200. to get Sheepie a cell phone so she could stay in contact with her friends. He also was paying the bill for that phone every month for quite a while. Sheepie got a job and started paying for her own. I remember this well. Then, the very next day, Buttmunch threw all Mustachio’s clothes and things out into the street and told him to get OUT! Luckily, HE had a place to stay but I was horrified over her treatment of him. Use him and abuse him but I kept my mouth shut. SHE herself told me that the money he gave them for rent was going to save their ass that month since Circle hadn’t worked much. But she presented it like it was *really* just a tiny drop in the bucket for his living with them for so long and not paying a dime. I’ll tell you why this was not true a little later. Don’t be impatient.
I am really amazed that they even talked to each other after that but they eventually did. Mustachio even moved into the same apartment complex when he got his present job since it was a very good job and paid well. He even dropped her a few bucks here and there for herself when he knew things were tough for Circle.
Let’s jump forward a bit to when my great-nephew Kevin died. My kids all traveled down here to be with their cousin, Tara (Kevin’s mother). Mustachio drove down and Buttmunch came with him. They all seemed to be getting along well but it wasn’t so. Buttmunch spent a lot of time sniping at her brother in front of him (where he could overhear it). She even made references to his being a deadbeat and that was too much for him. He started to remind her of all he gave out to her in cash money while he lived with her and she, apparently, panicked. She couldn’t have everyone hear that he had NOT been a deadbeat after all she had said so she started a fight with him that ended up in MY computer room. He followed her in here because he was furious that she would say that about him. So, what happens? First, she is yelling that she is tired of him constantly telling her about all the money he gave her. He ate…he had a place to live… and I KNEW then that my son HAD been giving her money all along. He starts to say something about what she had been telling others and SHE attacks him! I kid you not. She came out of my recliner like she was shot out of a cannon. That couldn’t be heard by me so she attacked him. My son went flying backwards (he ended up smashing my dvd holder..a cheapie, which I’ve replaced with something much better now) but he, bless him, never retaliated. I had to keep my daughter from attacking him again by pushing her down into my recliner and told my son to leave the room.
When he did, I told my daughter I was ashamed of her. She had no right to attack her brother. I do NOT believe in violence and SHE should have learned something from that crap from her father when she was a kid. But I guess she thought it was okay to be violent instead. I don’t think my daughter realized all she revealed to me while she was so angry and afraid. She was suddenly afraid, I think, that Mustachio would reveal that to Circle and that couldn’t happen. It was after that trip here that she broke it off with Circle and they parted ways. I truly believe it had more to do with being revealed as a thief and liar than any real unhappiness.
Now, what is making me so angry is that Mustachio has stopped talking to his brother. Mustachio believes that his brother attacked his sister. My niece, Tara, heard that being said and was shocked. Rightly so. It’s not his nature. Neither of my sons would do such a thing. Trust me, if Mustachio was so inclined, he had a sadistic girlfriend that would have driven him to it long before he finally left her. Why Mustachio would believe it of his brother is beyond me. When I first found out about it, I was going to call Marcus and tell him the truth … seen with my own eyes and heard with my own ears … but Mustachio told me not to do it. At the time, he believed that he and his brother would straighten it out between them. He didn’t think that Marcus would swallow all he was being fed hook, line and sinker….but I guess he did.
I wrote about her attacking Mustachio a few weeks back and him pushing her away, harder than he thought he had, and she ended up with two fractured ribs from hitting the sofa. He probably apologized a hundred times for how hard he pushed her. We have no idea what she told her brother, Marcus, but now he’s not answering any of Mustachio’s phone calls and he unfriended him on facebook, I gather. She has constantly fought with Mustachio over his putting on his music or wanting to watch his TV programs when he comes home from working 12 hours or more. I mean, who’s house is she living in?? Hell, he put himself in debt to take care of her dental problem she had when she moved in with him. But, besides her being in constant pain, she couldn’t get out and look for work if her teeth were bothering her. She had to find work so she could get out on her own and let him have HIS life back, right? I’m not recounting how they ended up living together because I still don’t really understand it but all she’s done is play her Starfleet game online all day. She’s never gone out to apply for a job in all the time she’s lived there. BUT…she acts like she’s boss and if he tries to listen to music she doesn’t like, it’s a fight. AND, the kicker is, she believes that whomever screams the loudest, wins. It almost got him kicked out of his apartment.
In fact, the landlord HAS given him notice (since he found out just WHO his sister is and came to talk to him about the complaints from the neighbors about her screaming). He has given two weeks notice that Buttmunch has to be out of there or else HE has to move. I gather that Buttmunch, not realizing that sometimes not doing things right can come back to bite you in the ass, did not leave the complex on a good note. Somehow or other, due to her previous record on this, she will make her brother the bad guy. AGAIN.
I am just FURIOUS over this. At first, I really figured that what was making her so irrational was her going through early menopause. It’s happened with women in our family. In fact, two of my sisters went through that so it wasn’t far-fetched. But what makes it worse is that she is digging a soon-to-be unrepairable rift in our family. We aren’t talking teenagers here. Every single one involved is in their 40′s and should have better judgment and life experience. I’m so furious over this whole scenario that it’s made me bring this out in the open when I didn’t want to do it.
I’m starting to feel like our family will end up like the Beast’s. They get pissed and never speak to each other for YEARS. Sometimes, they’ve died without ever making peace with each other, which is not a good thing in my eyes. If I hadn’t pushed him, the Beast might never have made up with HIS father before he died. He was glad afterward. But I never, ever expected that to happen to US. We’ve been close for most of our lives. We are huggers and kissers. How in the hell did this happen? Could just Buttmunch…alone…have planted this bad seed amongst us? I don’t know and I really don’t care but it had better STOP or our family trust is going to be revoked and we will be a lot less generous with what we do with our property and any money left when we die. I mean that with all my heart. I will NOT leave anything to anyone who doesn’t care about getting off their ass and even TRYING to work and get out on their own. I will also not leave anything to anyone who is NOT talking to anyone else in this family. If they can’t start acting like good Christian people and act like a family…well, then they aren’t part of MY family, are they?
Sorry to vent like this but I am just so ANGRY. [[taking deep breaths]]…love you all. Thanks for listening.
Comments (10)
Alright let’s clear this up. One, I brought my own cell phone from my dads. So or you to talk about someone lying, is the pot callin the kettle black. Two, uncle Steve was not thrown out AFTER I moved in. He was asked to leave far before I even thought about moving in. Then I moved in. So grandmother you should probably find out who really owes who because I can tell you now there are a few things owed but its not me owing them for this mysterious cell phone. Lol
Ok let me correct myself. Yes uncle Steve paid for a cell phone but it was turned off long before I moved in. Again, I came to Kentucky with my own cell phone. Hoop maybe paid for it a few times, but other than that, I have worked my ass off for my things I pay in full for and never asked anybody for money. Ask everyone’s sides grandma. You play a big part in making things ten times worse than they are. Have a good day.
@tsmancil - sorry then. Will correct it. I’m an old person and, unfortunately, I remember only certain things and not necessarily in the correct order when they aren’t really important. I probably shouldn’t even have put that in there. However, you also are part of the problem in this family. It’s not ME, it’s not just Krys like you keep saying. Krys bears part of it and so do you. Me? I’m just pissed off because *I* keep getting pissed on. You got mad at Krys a long time ago because you assumed she slept with her neighbor, whom you liked and had slept with. That was the start of the whole crappy deal between you. And you just keep piling more and more *slights* to make sure there’s more and more drama. It’s been making a rift of it’s own. However, it’s not all about YOU. Reread the whole thing. It’s something between the adults, not the kids.
No grandma. Idc that she did or did not sleep with him. That’s got absolutely nothing to do with it. What started it was because I didn’t name her on my list of things I was thankful for. I simply put family and assumed that included everyone. She got pissed that I didn’t call her by name. So nobody is pissing in you. If she’s mad at a childish thing like that, she’s not my problem. I’m done with krystin. She turned this into a big ordeal and started with her comments about my lazy eye. So yes grandma, in defensive mode I called her a half breed and said things I shouldn’t have. But at least I’m mature enough to admit I regret saying those things. Idc about krystin yes she’s family but no I’m not mad about who she may or may not have slept with. That’s her business. I’m obviously happy with Cory.
Well, if all that is true, dear, how come you stopped being friends right after she had told you that they were planning on going to Vegas together? You had been friends up to that point. And, yes, I am being pissed on because you are so mature that you stopped talking to ME when you had your last little tirade over the accusation that she had said things about Cory’s health? What the hell does she know about Cory’s health? And your threats to her were very recent for such a mature person. Yes, I know you are happy with Cory but many family feuds start over stupid crap and that’s what I feel has been happening here. I saw it happen with the Beast’s family. But they weren’t as loving a family (as we used to be anyway). I’m just sick and tired of this and want it to stop. And someone needs to be mature enough to take the first step. I’d like to see that happen before I die. TYVM.
And krystin is perfect? She throws her middle finger up when we drive by and FYI grandma it was YOU who said you didn’t like us. So you stopped talking to me. And btw me and krystin were fine after that. That was three summers ago and we’d gotten over that. And about Cory’s health, you’re right. She’ knows nothing. But she said it to me that he’s grimy and gos knows she’s put it all over Facebook about his health and talked crap to summer about it. I know I’ve done wrong but I also know whose fault this is. If you knew anything about the situation between krystin other than what she’s told you, you’d know that we were friends between the time she did or did not sleep with him and up until thanksgiving when I posted who I was thankful for. So you know nothing grandma. Just quit feeding it.
@tsmancil - I didn’t say you moved in right after she threw him out…she threw him out after he got that phone for you…while you were still in GA so I DO remember that much now. I may not make myself totally clear and that’s a shame on me. However, you keep thinking this is all over your damn cell phone and YOU. It is NOT about you and never has been. This particular blog was meant for the adults in the family. Not the children.
Yes grandma I get that. I just felt like you need to be corrected on your own ignorance as to what’s really happening. Good bye.
Oh yes. That was so mature.
I’ve called my mother and explained things….so hopefully we will see a correction here soon.
I have not been ‘hooked’, nor have I rejected any calls….nor have I stopped talking to anyone.
Mustachio needs to pick up a phone and actually CALL ME….and not just bitch to everyone else in the family.
I’m not mad at him….I don’t hate him…I do love him….but he needs to drink less before he starts accusing me of bullshit to the family.
…and that’s where I’m at today…..not very dramatic, I know, but there it is..