March 24, 2009
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Now Children, Let’s Not Argue!
I have to do a little explaining here that I really had not intended to do because of misinformation and leaping to conclusions by a few people. I mentioned here a couple blogs ago that I was worried that my daughter, Buttmunch, might be having a nervous breakdown and asked for prayers for her. I didn’t want to go into WHY I thought that but several people (including my daughter) thought I was being fed a lot of misinformation by my son, who happens to live with her and has for almost six months. I should have added just a short line or two about how I knew WHY this all was happening but I didn’t want to force a confrontation.
You see, it’s mainly BECAUSE she took her brother in to live with her that she has been put under a LOT of stress. I know this because I know my son and some of his habits. He is a slob, for one and for another, he drinks too damn much and becomes a real asshole. I love my son, make no mistake, but he would drive me nuts in a lot shorter time than he has gotten from his sister.
I knew this was coming on her primarily from talking to HER. Her whole tone of voice was stressed. She would call and complain about a lot of trivial stuff but never really told me that some of the stuff she was complaining about happened EVERY DAY, not just occasionally. It also was not all she talked about. She told me how she hated the fact that she let the Boyfriend talk her into NOT working because he felt that is what a woman should do. She should stay at home, do the housewifey things and the man of the house supported her. For a man raised mostly in foster homes, he had a lot of old-fashioned ideas that even *MY* generation didn’t have.
What shocked me to begin with was that my daughter would ever agree to such a thing. She is a true social animal. She loves people and loves going out and having fun. She, too, would sometimes overindulge but she didn’t drink and drive any more, having learned that lesson the hard way. She’s been a good girl for a number of years now. There is a strong emphasis on *sometimes* because she doesn’t/didn’t do it every day like my son does. He feels he’s okay because he drinks at home and doesn’t drive. I’m sorry but that doesn’t cut it. It also drove the Beast nuts the few days the Son was here visiting. He wanted me to hide all the liquor (and I hid a lot of it) but not all. That would have made the kid suspicious but he had no idea how much our company had consumed and I sure didn’t tell him. My son seems to be a true alcoholic, unfortunately. I think they call what he has *functional alcoholism*. What’s truly bad is that he has been through a program and we really thought he had taken it to heart and cleaned up his act. What can I say?
Anyway, first the daughter and I had words over the phone. She raved and ranted (yeah, that convinced me she wasn’t losing it but I really DID understand all the crap she had been through) plus it was a really awful winter so she couldn’t even throw her brother out (in good conscience). She really and truly thought I was listening to her brother and making that statement. I wasn’t but it wasn’t until two days AFTER the initial conversation that we finally got to talk normally and got everything all straightened out. I take what my son tells me with a grain of salt because he has no real idea of how difficult it is to live with him and his bad habits.
She finally DID have it out with her brother (the weather is nicer now and she could throw him out and let him sleep in his truck now…LOL). I won’t go into how she finally got his full attention and he understood that she was SERIOUS. That’s between the two of them but….he has a big check coming from one of his customers and my daughter told him he is moving into the efficiency next door to her. The rent is cheap and includes water and electricity. It’s a much better location than the trailer my son had been renting and a much better PLACE than the ramshackle trailer, too. He agreed on that. My daugher says as long as he is living by himself, she loves him to death. But she doesn’t like him when he is living with her. She said it will also be nice because she can crank her music up as high as she wants and her next door neighbor won’t complain….LOL. Her building only has the two apts. in it because it’s actually a converted club house.
She’s not concerned about them accepting the Son as a tenant because she found out that out of 26 apts., 14 are now unoccupied. It seems a lot of tenants moved out after the second electric outage that lasted for more than five days. It really wasn’t the landlord, it was the City of Louisville and the ice storms. But they are desperate for tenants and the rent and deposit will be easily handled by the Son.
Okay, so now that I straightened THAT out for everyone’s benefit, the Beast finished the flooring today. Even the trim is done and it looks wonderful. I am just ecstatic at how nice it looks. We did have to put strips of nonskid material under the feet of the furniture (the love seat and both recliners) because they slide like crazy without them. Heck, the dog rubbed against one of the recliners and it slid all the way to the wall.
And to think this all only took 2-1/2 weeks!!!! Amazing!I found out that Kim calls Johnnycakes *sweetcheeks*. She has started a blog here on Xanga now. She’s Bamakat if you want to check it out. She’s never blogged before but I am sure she will get the hang of it eventually. She sure got her site all gussied up, that’s for sure. Makes me wonder if I should do a little something. I have to think on it and I wouldn’t like it as busy as her’s is.
Well, have a great day. We are expecting some heavy rains here starting late tomorrow night and lasting through Saturday. Figures because Kim was going to have a yard sale….LOL Love you all. I wish you mild, warmer weather and the sounds of birds singing in the morning. I had a wood pecker outside my window today (and I mean RIGHT outside it), pecking on the windowsill. If he had done it more than twice, I would have figured it was brain-damaged since this house is aluminum siding and there is no wood anywhere except the deck. He flew away but all I could think of was that if the woodpeckers are back, my hummingbirds are next. I’ll keep you posted.
